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Hindu
View all →Mehendi, haldi, the sacred fire and the seven pheras.
Pre-wedding
Roka / Tilak
The first formal commitment between the two families, marking that the match is settled.
Roka literally means 'to stop' — both families agree to stop looking further, signalling the union is fixed. The tilak (a mark applied to the groom's forehead) is a blessing and a public acknowledgement of acceptance.
Read more →Ganesh Puja
An opening prayer to Lord Ganesha to remove obstacles before the wedding rites begin.
Ganesha is the remover of obstacles (Vighnaharta) and is invoked first in almost every Hindu ceremony so that the proceedings unfold without hindrance and with auspicious beginnings.
Read more →Haldi
A turmeric paste is applied to the bride and groom for a radiant glow and protection before the wedding.
Turmeric (haldi) is considered purifying and auspicious, believed to bless the couple, ward off the evil eye, and give the skin a bridal glow. It is also a moment of joy and play among close family.
Read more →Gaye Holud
The Bengali turmeric ceremony — haldi from the groom's home is carried to the bride and applied to her.
Gaye Holud ('turmeric on the body') is the Bengali haldi. Turmeric paste used on the groom is traditionally carried to the bride's home and applied to her, symbolically linking the two households and blessing the couple with an auspicious glow.
Read more →Mehendi
Intricate henna is applied to the bride's hands and feet, surrounded by music and celebration.
Mehendi is a symbol of love, beauty, and auspiciousness. A tradition holds that the darker the henna develops, the deeper the bond and the more the groom (or mother-in-law) will love the bride. It is also believed to be cooling and calming before the wedding.
Read more →Chooda & Kalire
The bride's maternal uncle gifts her red-and-white bangles; friends tie golden kalire to them.
In Punjabi weddings the bride's mama (maternal uncle) and his wife present the chooda — a set of red and ivory bangles — which the bride wears for the wedding and after. Friends and sisters then tie kalire (dome-shaped golden ornaments) to the bangles; a tradition holds that whoever a falling kalira touches will marry next.
Read more →Sangeet
A musical celebration where both families sing, dance, and perform for the couple.
Sangeet means 'music'. Traditionally a women's gathering of folk songs celebrating the union, it has grown into a joint celebration where both families perform choreographed dances and the two sides come together in joy before the wedding.
Read more →Wedding day
Baraat
The groom's wedding procession arrives at the venue with music and dancing.
The baraat is the groom's joyous journey to the wedding venue with his family and friends. It celebrates the groom being escorted to claim his bride, and traditionally the groom arrives on a decorated horse (ghodi).
Read more →Milni
The formal welcome where corresponding elders of both families meet and exchange garlands.
Milni means 'meeting'. It formally introduces and unites the two families — counterpart relatives (e.g. the two fathers, the two maternal uncles) greet each other, exchange garlands, and often gifts, symbolising the joining of the families, not just the couple.
Read more →Ponkhvu
The Gujarati welcome where the bride's mother greets and playfully 'grabs the nose' of the groom.
When the groom arrives, the bride's mother performs an aarti and welcomes him. In a much-loved playful moment she pulls his nose — a humbling reminder that he has come to ask for her daughter's hand. The groom then tries to enter while the bride's sisters tease and bar the way.
Read more →Madhuparka
The groom is honoured as an esteemed guest with a drink of honey, yoghurt and ghee.
In the Madhuparka, the bride's father receives the groom as a revered guest and offers him a ceremonial mixture — typically honey, yoghurt, and ghee — along with new garments. It expresses the high regard in which the groom and his family are held as the marriage begins.
Read more →Jaimala / Varmala
The bride and groom exchange flower garlands, signalling mutual acceptance.
The exchange of garlands (varmala) is the couple's mutual acceptance of one another as partners. By garlanding each other in front of the gathering, they publicly signal consent to the union.
Read more →Subho Drishti
The auspicious first look between the Bengali bride and groom.
In Subho Drishti the bride, carried on a low stool (pidi) and hiding her face with betel leaves, is brought before the groom. She lowers the leaves and the couple lock eyes for the first time as bride and groom — an auspicious, much-celebrated moment greeted with conch shells and ululation.
Read more →Saat Paak & Mala Badal
The bride circles the groom seven times, then the couple exchange garlands.
In Saat Paak, the bride — seated on the pidi and carried by her brothers — is taken around the groom seven times, binding them together. This is followed by Mala Badal, the exchange of flower garlands three times, signifying mutual acceptance.
Read more →Kashi Yatra
A playful South Indian rite where the groom 'sets off' to renounce the world and is coaxed back to marry.
In Kashi Yatra the groom mock-pretends to give up worldly life and leave for Kashi (Varanasi) as an ascetic. The bride's father intercepts him and persuades him that married householder life (grihastha) is the nobler path — a charming, light-hearted moment before the wedding proper.
Read more →Oonjal
The couple is seated on a decorated swing as women sing and ward off the evil eye.
In the Oonjal, the bride and groom sit on a gently swaying swing while married women sing songs, feed them milk and fruit, and circle lamps and coloured rice to protect them from the evil eye. The swing's motion is said to represent the steady ups and downs of life the couple will face together.
Read more →Jeelakarra Bellam
A defining Telugu moment — the couple place a paste of cumin and jaggery on each other's heads.
At the auspicious instant (muhurat), the Telugu bride and groom each place a paste of jeelakarra (cumin) and bellam (jaggery) on the other's head. The bitter-and-sweet mix symbolises a bond that holds firm through life's bitter and sweet times alike — inseparable, like the two ingredients.
Read more →Kanyadaan
The bride's parents formally entrust their daughter to the groom.
Kanyadaan ('gift of the daughter') is regarded as one of the most sacred acts a parent can perform. The bride's father places her hand in the groom's, entrusting her to him and his family, and the groom accepts the responsibility of her care and partnership.
Read more →Antarpat & Mangalashtak
A Maharashtrian rite — a curtain between the couple drops as the Mangalashtak verses end and they garland each other.
In a Maharashtrian wedding the antarpat (a decorative curtain) is held between the bride and groom while priests and guests recite the Mangalashtak — auspicious wedding verses. On the final 'shubh mangal saavadhan', the curtain is lowered and the couple garland each other, married at that instant.
Read more →Havan / Vivah Homa
The sacred fire is lit as the divine witness to the marriage.
Agni, the fire god, is invoked as the eternal witness to the vows. Offerings (ahuti) are made into the fire while mantras are chanted; the fire's presence makes the marriage binding and sacred in Vedic tradition.
Read more →Mangal Phere / Saptapadi
The couple circles the sacred fire, taking vows that bind them as partners.
The pheras are circuits around the sacred fire, each accompanied by a vow. The closely related Saptapadi ('seven steps') has the couple take seven steps together, each representing a shared promise — for nourishment, strength, prosperity, happiness, family, harmony of seasons, and lifelong friendship. Completing the steps is, in many traditions, the moment the marriage becomes complete and binding.
Read more →Joota Chupai
The bride's sisters steal the groom's shoes and ransom them back — a beloved bit of wedding fun.
When the groom removes his shoes to enter the mandap, the bride's sisters and cousins (saaliyan) hide them. After the rites they negotiate a playful ransom (neg) to return them — a light-hearted contest that bonds the two families and is one of the most-loved moments of a North Indian wedding.
Read more →Sindoor & Mangalsutra
The groom applies sindoor and ties the mangalsutra, marking the bride as married.
The groom applies sindoor (vermilion) in the parting of the bride's hair and ties the mangalsutra (sacred necklace) around her neck. Both are enduring symbols of a married woman's status and the couple's bond and well-being.
Read more →Sindoor Daan
The Bengali groom applies sindoor to the bride's hair parting, completing the marriage.
Sindoor Daan is the climactic Bengali rite: the groom applies vermilion to the bride's parting, often as she is shielded by a new sari (ghomta). It marks her as a married woman and, for many families, completes the wedding.
Read more →Mangalya Dharanam
The South Indian tying of the thaali (sacred marriage thread/pendant) around the bride's neck.
Mangalya Dharanam is the defining moment of a South Indian wedding: to the sound of auspicious music (getti melam), the groom ties the thaali / mangalyam around the bride's neck with three knots, while the gathering showers blessings. It is the equivalent of the mangalsutra and seals the marriage.
Read more →Talambralu
A joyful Telugu ritual where the couple shower each other with turmeric-coated rice.
In Talambralu, the newly married Telugu couple pour handfuls of pearls of turmeric-and-saffron rice over each other's heads. It is a playful celebration of happiness, prosperity, and fertility — and often turns into a delightful friendly contest.
Read more →Ashirvad
Elders bless the newly married couple for a long and prosperous life together.
After the rites are complete, the couple seeks the blessings of elders and the pandit. Touching the feet of elders (pranam) and receiving akshat (rice/grains) and good wishes formally closes the sacred portion of the wedding.
Read more →Post-wedding
Vidaai
The emotional farewell as the bride leaves her parental home for the groom's.
Vidaai marks the bride's departure from her childhood home to begin life with her husband's family. It is a bittersweet moment — joy for the new union mixed with the emotion of parting. The bride traditionally throws back handfuls of rice/coins over her head, a gesture of repaying and wishing prosperity on her parents' home.
Read more →Aeki Beki
A playful post-wedding game where the newlyweds search a tray of milk for a ring.
Aeki Beki is a light-hearted game played after the wedding: a ring (and coins) are dropped into a tray of milk coloured with vermilion and flowers, and the couple compete to find the ring. Tradition teases that whoever wins more rounds will 'rule the household' — a fun ice-breaker between the newlyweds and families.
Read more →Griha Pravesh
The bride's first entry into her new marital home.
The bride is welcomed into the groom's home as the new Lakshmi (goddess of prosperity) of the household. She traditionally enters by knocking over a small vessel of rice with her right foot, symbolising the prosperity and abundance she brings.
Read more →Sikh
View all →The Anand Karaj and the four Laavan around the Guru Granth Sahib.
Pre-wedding
Kurmai (Sikh engagement)
The Sikh engagement, often held in a Gurdwara, formalising the match between the families.
The Kurmai (or Thaka) is the Sikh betrothal. Frequently held in the presence of the Guru Granth Sahib with an Ardas, the groom is given gifts and a kara or kirpan, and the families exchange sweets and dried fruit — publicly committing to the union.
Read more →Chunni Chadana
The groom's family welcomes the bride into their family with gifts and a chunni (veil).
The groom's mother and female relatives visit the bride, drape a red chunni over her head, and present her with jewellery, sweets, and outfits — formally accepting her as a daughter of their family.
Read more →Maiyan / Vatna
A turmeric paste (vatna) is applied to the bride and groom at their own homes before the wedding.
Like the haldi in Hindu weddings, the vatna is applied for an auspicious glow and to bless the couple. From this point the bride and groom traditionally stay home until the wedding day.
Read more →Wedding day
Milni (Sikh)
The two families formally meet at the Gurdwara before the Anand Karaj, beginning with Ardas.
The Milni ('meeting') unites the two families. It opens with an Ardas (prayer), then counterpart elders from each side meet, embrace, and exchange garlands and gifts — the families joining before the marriage itself.
Read more →Anand Karaj (Laavan)
The Sikh marriage ceremony — the couple takes four rounds around the Guru Granth Sahib as the Laavan hymns are sung.
Anand Karaj means 'blissful union'. The marriage centres on the Guru Granth Sahib, the Sikh holy scripture and eternal Guru. The four Laavan (composed by Guru Ram Das) are read and sung in turn; with each, the couple circles the Guru Granth Sahib, the bride following the groom holding a palla (scarf). The four rounds describe the soul's journey toward union with the Divine, with marriage as a path of mutual love and spiritual growth.
Read more →Muslim
View all →The Nikah contract, Mehndi, Walima and more.
Pre-wedding
Mangni
The formal engagement where the couple exchanges rings and the families agree to the union.
The Mangni is the public commitment between the two families. Rings are often exchanged and gifts presented, marking the couple as betrothed ahead of the Nikah.
Read more →Mehndi (Muslim)
A festive henna celebration, traditionally held separately by the bride's and groom's families.
Henna is applied to the bride amid music, sweets, and celebration as a symbol of joy, beauty, and blessings for the marriage.
Read more →Post-wedding
Rukhsati
The bride's farewell as she departs with the groom after the Nikah.
The Rukhsati is the emotional moment the bride leaves her family's home to begin life with her husband. Elders offer prayers for the couple's happiness and protection.
Read more →Walima
The reception feast hosted by the groom's family to celebrate the marriage publicly.
The Walima is the feast given by the groom's family after the marriage is consummated, to announce and celebrate the union with the wider community. It is a Sunnah (recommended practice) and an occasion of generosity and joy.
Read more →Christian
View all →Church vows, ring exchange and the nuptial blessing.
Jain
View all →Jain vivah rites framed by ahimsa and the Navkar Mantra.
Interfaith
View all →Honouring two traditions in one celebration.
Wedding day
Two Ceremonies, One Wedding
Holding each tradition's full ceremony — often on separate days — so neither is compromised.
Many interfaith couples choose to hold each faith's ceremony in full, frequently on different days or sessions. This lets each set of rites be performed properly and lets both families experience their own traditions completely, rather than shortening either to fit.
Read more →Working with Two Officiants
Coordinating officiants from each faith so both ceremonies flow with dignity.
When each tradition has its own officiant — say a pandit and a priest, or a granthi and a qazi — a little coordination lets each lead their portion fully while the whole day feels like one celebration rather than two stitched together.
Read more →Blended Unity Rituals
Shared symbolic moments that honour both traditions within a single ceremony.
When couples prefer one combined ceremony, a shared symbolic act can represent the joining of two heritages — for example pairing elements both families hold dear, a joint lamp or candle lighting, or readings and blessings from each tradition. The aim is genuine representation of both, chosen together with the families and officiants.
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